Betrayal Trauma Quiz

On a scale of 0-5, 5 being extremely, and 0 not at all, answer the following questions:

Since learning about my partner’s betrayal…

  1. I feel unsafe, especially with him. ___

  2. My mind won’t stop spinning, and I can’t concentrate. ___

  3. My mind races when I go to bed, and it’s extremely difficult to sleep. ___

  4. My mind feels flat and shut down, and I struggle to get out of bed. ___

  5. I have horrible nightmares and wake up exhausted. ___

  6. I need his comfort, but he is the enemy. My body feels confused. ___

  7. I sometimes feel like I’m reliving discovery. It’s like my brain keeps replaying what has happened, and I can’t make it stop. ___

  8. I’m hypervigilant, and I jump at every little noise. ___

  9. I don’t feel safe anywhere outside my home. ___

  10. Since discovery, I feel alone, even with my former best friends and family. ___

  11. I’m terrified friends and/or my family will find out about my partner’s betrayal. ___

  12. I feel enormous shame. ___

  13. I no longer trust my intuition; I somehow missed this. What else might I be missing? ___

  14. I feel nauseous and can barely get food down. ___

  15. I’m losing weight and people are starting to notice. ___

  16. I can’t make myself stop checking up on him. ___

  17. My emotions are like a roller coaster ride that I can’t get off. ___

  18. My heart races and I can’t relax. ___

  19. I’ve been plagued with headaches, shaking, or other new physical symptoms. ___

  20. Since D-Day, I get triggered everywhere I go, especially if my husband is with me. ___

  21. My self-esteem is in the toilet. ___

  22. I sometimes have thoughts of suicide. ___

After writing a numeric value for each question, add the numbers and write the total here: ___

The highest possible numeric rating is 110 (5 pts x all 22 questions).

Where are you compared to 110?

Be aware that a high total means your trauma is severe, and you need help as soon as possible. I, Marsha Means, will happily talk with you to help you determine what to do to get help soon, based on your finances, location, and personal circumstances.

Even a total of 44 (2pts on 22 questions) reveals your body and emotions are on alert. And long-term, that heightened state of alert, and the chemicals it causes to be released into your system, can and does do damage at a cellular level. Not to mention setting up a cycle of PTSD.

So, I urge you to take action and get the help you need to begin to heal, so your body can begin to return to “calm.”

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